Cutting down the guest list is one of the toughest things to do in wedding planning… Here is some practical advice.
- Have 3 lists: people whom you HAVE to invite, people whom you SHOULD invite, people whom you WOULD LIKE to invite.
- Set some rules for yourself so when you are asked WHY someone wasn’t invited, you refer to the rules that you created. (for example: only kids of immediate family are invited, not kids of friends; maybe invite people over 21 because of the bar, except for wedding party children). Stick to your convictions and don’t feel guilty.
- For family members, depending on how big your families are: invite immediate family, their children, grandparents, aunts, uncles and first cousins. If your family is really big, you may not be able to invite second and third cousins. Limit the children to immediate family and wedding party children.
- For friends (elementary, middle school, high school, college, past co-workers, neighbors), if you have not spoken to someone for a year (Facebook does not count), it is okay not to invite them. Another rule of thumb: If you don’t have their phone number, you may not be that close.
- Don’t feel obligated to invite current co-workers, unless you spend time with them outside of work.
- Depending on who is paying for the reception (you or your parents), be careful about your parents’ guest list of friends. If your parents do not pay, only invite their family friends whom you know. If you pay, you may or may not be able to invite their friends. That’s okay too.